Ritalin isn't for everyone

Olivia's been tantrum-free for 5 months and it's been great. Well, something or someone has recently triggered her emotion and frustrations and I'm at my ends on how to effectively deal with her. 30 to 45 minutes of ongoing crying and no understanding in sight or willingness to listen is draining. Really, how can this be normal? Madeleine has tantrums but they're over in 5 mins. No matter what I do or say, there's nothing that can calm Olivia or bring her back to reality. It's usually the little details that touch her off. She was carefree all summer and having it all come back is ... exhausting.

Last week I volunteered at preschool and at the end of the class, she freaked out over some creeping game. I had no idea what that was or what she was even talking about. She was whining/crying and refused to move off the carpet. After 10 mins, I had to ask the teacher if she knew what Olivia was asking for. Fortunately, the teacher knew and was very nice to play a quick game of Mouse Creeping. It's not something they play every day at end of story time before parent pickup so i have no idea what set her off. Regardless, after the game she was completely content and went about the rest of the day.

So I have to ask? How should I have reviewed this with her and explained that her behavior was unacceptable. Instances like this make me clueless and frazzled. If her teacher wouldn't have told me, I think I would have had no choice but to carry her out of there.

Then there are peaceful times. Right now Madeleine's napping so Olivia has quiet time. She's been singing to herself while playing quietly in the playroom; completely content. A preschool parent recommended Ritalin isn't for everyone. (The parent is a psychologist.)

Hope it helps!